An Explanation...

The other day a friend and I were talking when the subject of what I was doing in my spare time came up. What followed was an awkward explanation of this blog and my hopes and aspirations for it. I found it a little hard to explain what I was trying to accomplish and why I was posting it on the Internet.

However as I spoke I found that the process of talking aloud to someone else helped me to solidify my intentions and grasp of what I want. An interesting analogy came about in our discussion. My friends has two roommates, a couple of college students, who according to her just don't 'see' things.

What did she mean? It was primarily her complaint that they didn't clean up around the house, simply because they didn't notice it was dirty. Of course, before things could get out of hand, she had already stepped in to clean it up. So in the lives and perceptions of these college student age roommates of hers, the house was clean magically!

The thing that most interested me in this was the idea of perception. What we as people see and notice. What our habits cause us to unconsciously miss, and things we do without realizing it. My goal is to make my wife happy obviously. However it in my opinion is simple, and yet complex.

Simple in that it is the simple everyday actions and thoughts that allow us to have wonderful, happy relationships. Complex in that often we miss these simple things because in our perceptions they do not exist, or are beneath our notice. When we do something to irritate our significant others, very few people will say they did it on purpose. More likely you will hear that it was unintended, or an even more defensive stance such as 'why should it matter?'

I want to notice, I want to see. Yes it is simple, but it requires being able to notice the little things. It requires a change in my perception, which I think is a complex change overall. My goal in this blog is to write down these things, these observations, so that I can analyze and re-analyze, and perhaps even get the opinion's of others later down the line should my own analytical abilities fail me. I want to see the dirt that would irritate my wife, the habits I have that make her annoyed.

I want to be a husband worthy of my wife, and one that makes her happy.