So Speaks Woman.
I sometimes wish I could record the conversations between my friend and I. She speaks words of plain truth, and hold no punches back, even the ones that hit below the belt. I often walk away disliking her, and later thinking back and having to grudgingly admit she was right, not always, but often enough. It helps that she speaks from a woman's perspective, and doesn't bother to cover up what is the truth with honey coated words to bolster a man's ego.
So tonight we went to the movie 'the ugly truth'. It was funny and not a bad movie not great but a laugh here and there. The interesting thing was the conversation it sparked afterwards over burgers and beer at a local pub. While similar to the conversation I last posted about, it too touched on the subject of lies and the truth. We talked about whether such things were actually important and why lies happened.
The same truth came forward, you can't really ever tell when your partner lies. You don't know when a woman fakes an orgasm, or the number of men shes has been with prior to you. You will never know if your actually the biggest man she has been with, or actually the smallest. My friend explained that a woman has no reason to ever tell the truth.
Ultimately such numbers, sizes, etc are all there merely to feed the male ego. As long as we men care about such things, the answers from our partners will always be the same. Your the biggest, very few men, you give me multiple orgasms each time, I would never have sex with a man I didn't love.
I find it fascinating that as long as the truth matters to us men, that we shall never have it. Should the answers cease to matter, women would tell us the truth, but we would no longer care enough to ask. It almost sounds like enlightenment.
In a way knowing such a truth brings a feeling of peace, freedom, and a bit of sadness. Peace and freedom knowing that I can never know sets the mind free from ever having to wonder. If it cannot be attained then there is nothing to consider any longer. Sadness because I feel the desire for truth, but know that I cannot truly ever know for sure that the answers are true. The questions like my friend explained actually matter not at all.
Knowing would not change my opinion of my wife, but I know her answers are tailored to make me happy. An odd thing that, my wife would lie to make me happy, but were I to know that she had lied it would make me sad. Which would you choose the lie that makes you happy or the truth that might not?
Consider for a second, you wife goes out with friends gets drunk while hanging out, and ends up sleeping with another man. Your relationship is great, if you never find out you live another 60 years in marital bliss, if you find out you divorce and become a bitter man for the next 60 years. Which would you choose the truth or the lie?
I suppose I am rambling a bit, while siting there we talked at much length about somewhat philosophical ideas about relationships etc. I found these thoughts going through my head and sought an outlet where I might write them down to study another day and perchance to think about them at length. Hopefully these thoughts will somehow allow me to become a better man, who cares for what is actually important, and maybe even allows me to make her happy.
So tonight we went to the movie 'the ugly truth'. It was funny and not a bad movie not great but a laugh here and there. The interesting thing was the conversation it sparked afterwards over burgers and beer at a local pub. While similar to the conversation I last posted about, it too touched on the subject of lies and the truth. We talked about whether such things were actually important and why lies happened.
The same truth came forward, you can't really ever tell when your partner lies. You don't know when a woman fakes an orgasm, or the number of men shes has been with prior to you. You will never know if your actually the biggest man she has been with, or actually the smallest. My friend explained that a woman has no reason to ever tell the truth.
Ultimately such numbers, sizes, etc are all there merely to feed the male ego. As long as we men care about such things, the answers from our partners will always be the same. Your the biggest, very few men, you give me multiple orgasms each time, I would never have sex with a man I didn't love.
I find it fascinating that as long as the truth matters to us men, that we shall never have it. Should the answers cease to matter, women would tell us the truth, but we would no longer care enough to ask. It almost sounds like enlightenment.
In a way knowing such a truth brings a feeling of peace, freedom, and a bit of sadness. Peace and freedom knowing that I can never know sets the mind free from ever having to wonder. If it cannot be attained then there is nothing to consider any longer. Sadness because I feel the desire for truth, but know that I cannot truly ever know for sure that the answers are true. The questions like my friend explained actually matter not at all.
Knowing would not change my opinion of my wife, but I know her answers are tailored to make me happy. An odd thing that, my wife would lie to make me happy, but were I to know that she had lied it would make me sad. Which would you choose the lie that makes you happy or the truth that might not?
Consider for a second, you wife goes out with friends gets drunk while hanging out, and ends up sleeping with another man. Your relationship is great, if you never find out you live another 60 years in marital bliss, if you find out you divorce and become a bitter man for the next 60 years. Which would you choose the truth or the lie?
I suppose I am rambling a bit, while siting there we talked at much length about somewhat philosophical ideas about relationships etc. I found these thoughts going through my head and sought an outlet where I might write them down to study another day and perchance to think about them at length. Hopefully these thoughts will somehow allow me to become a better man, who cares for what is actually important, and maybe even allows me to make her happy.