The Perceptions of my Wife..

An interesting conversation occured today while talking with my mother. It was again on the topic of perception and how each person percieves the world around them. My mother asked a question of me that gave me pause for a second. She asked 'what if your wife doesn't notice all the work you have been doing for her?'

It was an interesting thought, and one that deserves some consideration. I have known people that only notice the negatives in situations. While my wife is not one of these people, there may be times when a lot of effort to make her happy will result in the exact opposite. If my actions make her unhappy am I supposed to take consolation in my effort?

The more I thought of this issue the more I realized that I am unable to affect the perceptions of others. Each person makes a choice each and every moment to decide how they will percieve the world around them. Events beyond my control could very well change my wife into a woman who would never be satisfied with anything I do.

A meteorite could also strike me dead right at this moment. I thought, I considered and then I realized that all this thought was a simple waste of my time. I cannot affect how my wife will perceive my actions. I cannot stop meteroites from falling. These things are beyond my control, and to worry about them would eat my mind from the inside out.

I love my wife, and with anyone you love, you must show it. They must know without a doubt that you truly cherish them. I will savor each day and find what happiness I may in the little and big things that occur in my life. I will march forward and love my wife in the best way I know how and let life happen as it may. I will live my life such as I would have wished it the day I lay upon my deathbed.

Should my wife not percieve the things I do for her, it will not matter. In my mind I will know what I have done. What matters is that I do my best to make her happy.